What’s the right way to approach sex on a first date?

EVERYTHING is fair in love and war? More like everything is fair when the decision of a right swipe is consensual? Modern dating has opened up many new concepts of so-called “love” and everyone is entitled to their own definitions for it.

Irrespective of the choices, sexual tension and chemistry have a huge role to play in the swipe dynamics, and sooner or later, sexual pleasure does become important.

If you happen to ask an audience their opinion on the right time to get sexually involved with a date – you will never see a room get divided faster.

Some will say three dates is the rule, while others happen to develop a strong connection on the first date itself. Some will advocate getting regularly involved in quick hookups, while others will be completely against the idea of having sex without bonding emotionally.

Either way, the final decision is completely up to the two people and is best guided by experience.

The decision of having sex on the first date comes with experience. If you are someone who isn’t sure of what you want sexually or what is it that truly satisfies you, we’d highly recommend going slow.

But for those who know what they are looking for, having sex on the first date is completely okay.

Sybil Shiddell, country manager of India for Gleeden, a dating app, shares: “Even as hooking up is normal in the dating world, it does not take away from the fact that building an emotional connection helps enhance the sex experience and develops a special intimacy between partners.”

The sexual connection is always better with some of these crucial considerations that help you make sure you have the best time together:

Clear communication:

There is no normal person who can mind read so communicating your expectations and needs is the best way ahead before you get involved sexually.

Health first: Nobody is as important as you and your health. With the increasing hook-up culture, STDS are pretty common. It is always a great idea to ask your partner about their sexual involvements and experiences.

Emotional attachment: Humans thrive on emotions. Even though it seems cool to admit that we don’t care, having an emotional bond makes a huge difference while having sex.

Express yourself: Everyone has something that turns them on, along with multiple pet peeves. It is bound to get awkward if your partner is not aware that an action does not work for you. This is why talking openly about everything that is and is not okay for each person sexually is a must.

Build up the sexual chemistry: Flirtatious texts, sexting, and showering love on your partner is a great way to build up sexual tension and ascertain if you really want to go ahead.

Enjoy every moment: No matter what one believes in, no one can deny the beautiful feeling of spending time with your date and how that can translate beautifully into your sexual relationship. Connection takes time, go on a few dates and let the natural energy flow.

Protection is a must: No protection is definitely uncool, if your partner does not agree to this, you should not proceed.

Maintain hygiene: Exciting sex can sometimes be impromptu and not the best hygiene. Even then, planning in advance and ensuring everything is clean and hygienic will make sure you both have a good time.

Do not expect a fairy tale: Sex is often romanticised – orgasms are expected, and dopamine seems to go rocketing. Sadly, this kind of perfect sex may not be true for your first encounter. Just like emotional intimacy and love languages, understanding someone’s sexual language and pleasure points takes time.

Be Sensitive: Last, there is nothing more rude and unacceptable than being insensitive before, during or after. Respecting the fact that you are the most vulnerable around a particular person for a short period of time goes a long way, and one needs to be sensitive about their partner.

Check up on them and ensure they are content and comfortable with you. These small gestures go a long way while being sexually involved with anyone.